3 rules of relative dating
And as I mentioned at the beginning of this post, if you are only paying attention to what a man says, it can be impossible.A girl interested in saving her time and emotional energy needs to be as adept as possible at discerning these these types of men.While explaining her relationship with a guy she is interested in, a reader who recently wrote to me for advice reminded me of the difference between the typical male and female approach to being "friends with benefits": I guess we're friends with benefits because there's no commitment on both parts.I also made a conscious choice that it was only purely physical with what happened between us (only twice by the way). I was, however, hoping that we could learn more about each other slowly and establish a good foundation before going to the next level. The simple fact is that men almost never fall in love this way, despite what you saw in the fictional movie (emphasis on fictional), No Strings Attached.I will go as far as to say that you are denying yourself the only reliable indication of his interest.A man might make eye contact with you from across the bar, but unless he overcomes his fear or leaves his buddies in order to approach you, he isn't into you enough. A man might say he wants to see you, but unless he calls to set up a date, he doesn't care enough. A man might tell you to come and visit him, but if he cares enough, he will come to you if you suggest it.I wrote a similar post about not initiating contact after a guy breaks up with you.
If you find yourself having difficulty determining a man's level of interest because "first he said X, but then he said Y," or even if you know exactly what he is saying and are sure he is interested, stop yourself.
What a man says is the worst possible indicator of his interest: you need to pay attention to what he does.
This is why it is so important for a woman to allow a man to initiate contact after an initial meeting, and even well into the relationship.
The more attractive you are relative to him, the more cautious you need to be.
This is complicated by the fact that it is perfectly possible for a man that is less attractive than a girl to be sexually attracted to her and interested in her as a person (i.e.