No confidence in dating
I want you to imagine a list of sexy mates all in one place, waiting to meet their special someone in hopes of finding what could be "true love." Online dating sites are simple to use but can easily break and eventually deteriorate our once strong self confidence we learned to instill in ourselves.
For example, you send a couple people messages that appear to be the ideal attractive mate and you don't ever hear back from them.
Thenceforth, I added confidence as a “must-have” on my checklist. I was treated better, respected more, and I learned more.
If my head was whirling afterwards, it was only from the thrill and excitement of romance—rarely from pulling my hair out in bewildered frustration (which was the norm with my unconfident man).
I can’t count the amount of times I received a confusing text that, had I been some sort of magician who read minds, would have said: “I’m interested in you, but don’t actually want to show it, so I’m going to hint at it in cryptic messages and backhanded compliments that will utterly confuse you, and make you rethink your self-worth.
Let’s hang out While there’s a myriad of reasons that a guy might be keeping a bit of distance—including pacing the relationship—if it seems like he clams up after having a discussion about his emotions or vulnerabilities, something could be up.
“[An insecure man] can continually seek closeness with his partner because it reassures him that she’s into him and reciprocates his feelings.” So, if he reacts badly when you’re looking to have some of your own space, take note.
From experience, I learned that true confidence isn’t exactly flashy—and won’t necessarily be obvious unless you know what you’re looking for.
In fact, sometimes it’s easier to identify a deeply confident man by what he do, rather than what he does do. Don’t get me wrong—some games will always play a part in relationships. But there’s a difference between innocent, coy flirting, and actively manipulating your girlfriend’s mind.
While he might know what he’s good at, he knows what he’s bad at, too.
“A confident man recognizes not only his strengths, but weaknesses too.