Stop intimidating boss
If you work for an aggressive personality, you probably need answers and solutions, too. More than anything aggressive personalities want to win, at whatever cost.
Is there an effective way to work with someone who can never be wrong, refuses all input from others, and is hypersensitive to even the hint of criticism (while dishing out plenty of criticism of others)? Simon says that aggressive personalities are “fundamentally at war with anything that stands in the way of their unrestrained pursuit of their desires.” And unlike the rest of us, aggressive people don’t shy from conflict.
Start meeting with people you like and admire at work and tell them you are looking to improve your performance – ask them what they think you can do to do better, how to learn and grow. Take an honest stock of your strengths and weaknesses.
You’ll be surprised at how many helpful people are actually out there, if you ask. You need someone to keep you line, to tell you that you can do it, and not to give in. Get a development plan together for your boss to be part of the program, so that he or she can buy into your growth as a person and as a professional.7. You may be in the wrong position, with the wrong boss.
Do NOT, however, rely on a behavioral assessment exam to reveal whether an individual has a personality disorder, because behavioral assessments are NOT medical exams.
In the pursuit of their desires, they’re immune to reason, logic, and common sense—just like a willful six-year-old.
Apparently, I have captured a micro-audience of tortured souls dealing with the unpleasant challenge of facing a brutish boss every day. Their story is almost always the same: a once-confident worker is suddenly thrust into a new situation with an intimidating boss, and instead of rising to the challenge, a downward spiral ensues of little mistakes, negative self-talk, more fumbling, obsessive rumination and complete loss of confidence.
Leading to a search on the internet to figure out what to do.
When all else fails, and time doesn’t help, then maybe it’s just time to look for a new job, or a new boss.
If these tips don’t do the trick for you, head over to Bob Sutton’s blog, Work Matters.